
How to Lead Your Boss (Without Them Knowing)
We talk a lot about managing down, but managing up is where influence gets interesting.
If you're in a STEM role, you're likely solving complex problems, translating data into decisions, and quietly holding things together.
But what happens when your boss - brilliant as they are - is the bottleneck, the decision-delayer, or just out of sync with what really needs to happen?
Here’s the truth: you can lead from the middle. And done right, they’ll thank you for it - without ever realizing you were nudging the ship the whole time.
𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟭: 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀
What keeps your boss up at night? What metrics are they being judged on? When you understand 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 drivers, you can frame your recommendations to support them. You're not manipulating - you're aligning.
Instead of: “We should build X because it’s more efficient.”
Try: “If we build X, it’ll reduce support tickets by 30%, which frees your team for higher-priority work.”
𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟮: 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗘𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗲𝗿
Don’t show up with problems - show up with options. Bonus points if one of those options clearly ties to what your boss cares about. You’re not just being helpful - you’re removing cognitive load, which builds trust fast.
𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟯: 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗕𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗽𝗼𝘁𝘀
If your boss is missing something critical - a tech risk, a cultural concern, or a misalignment - find a way to flag it without making them feel exposed. Offer data. Ask questions. Give them a graceful out.
“One pattern I’ve noticed is XYZ. If we don’t address it, it might affect [business outcome they care about]. What’s your take?”
𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟰: 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆
Sometimes the best way to lead is to make your boss look good. Share credit, prep them before meetings, anticipate tough questions, and help them succeed in rooms you don’t even enter.
𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝟱: 𝗕𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗺
In high-stakes environments, emotional control is leadership currency. When you stay steady, offer solutions, and model grounded thinking, you become the person they turn to - whether you have the title or not.
𝗔 𝗦𝗼𝗳𝘁 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗠𝗼𝘃𝗲
Leading up isn't about power plays. It's about contribution, foresight, and emotional intelligence. It's about being so good at your job - and so tuned in to the broader goals - that leadership happens naturally.
And if you ever feel stuck between “being helpful” and “being strategic,” let's talk about how executive coaching can help you find that balance. Coaching creates space to clarify your influence style, reframe team dynamics, and navigate upward relationships with precision and confidence.